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Hi i have been under a lot of stress with a female friend of my partner recently pursueing him.
I have been having this re orruring dream that i am going to be left heart broken by this we have had a lot of heated discussions about it recently and he begs me to trust him he isnt sympathetic when she is around palys into her hands. it isnt him i dont trust it is her and it frightens the life out of me to point where i am ready to explode with mixed emotions. these dreams wake me up crying eventually some last longer than others but when i wake up i am devastated i hold onto him tight whilst he is sleeping for reasurence he is still here. he feels that i am close and says he loves me. any idea why i am having these dreams 
Thank you for your time.
Bianca
Dreams can have many meanings.
It might be that you're picking up vibes from her behaviour.
It might simply be the fact that your brain is processing your worries and needs to vent them - albeit in a not-very-helpful way!
First consider if there's anything you can do. If you spend your time telling someone not to do hang around with someone else, they usually want to do it. Rebel-teen syndrome! Be wary of contributing to arguments that become nagging.
Having trust is good, but he has to prove he's worthy of the trust.
The best way through it is to speak to your partner. Explain that whilst his 'trust me' reassurances are good, the situation is upsetting you, and you need to feel that you're still the important one in his life.
How you go about this will depend on your situation.
And if he respects you, he'll do his best for you.
Spend some time working on your own self-confidence, too, both by yourself and with your own friends. Feeling good in yourself means you'll send out that kind of vibe. Which can only be a positive thing!
S
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Hi Bianca
It's your feelings finding an outlet through your dreams.
You need to talk things over with your partner. Explain that this female is making you feel upset to the point where it is affecting your life and that you would prefer it if he would make it very clear to her that he's with you and is not interested in her. Don't approach him when you're upset/angry and don't beg. Just tell him clearly and calmly.
He should be prepared at least to tell her to back off if he has any regard for you - or for her. After all, by not telling her to back off, he's giving her false hope that there's something there which isn't, which will encourage her to keep trying.
And if you trust him, as you said you do, then there's no problem! Remember he's with you and that if he didn't want to be, he wouldn't be with you!
Cassie
